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Sunday, December 30, 2012

My word for 2013.......

This word selected me back at Samhain.....acceptance. And then I had one doozie of a bout with my forever companion depression and let my lesson slip away from me momentarily.

Acceptance is not giving into what is inevitable. It is coming to terms with what has happened, not depending on what might happen and giving into what is happening. It does not have to do with my fighting my way out of or into any circumstance or situation. I must learn to accept what is.

I hate the saying of today...it is what it is. I don't know if I dislike it because it sounds like indifference, surrender or apathy or because I have been railing against the storm that has been my life colored by my past for so long, I don't know how to give myself over to anyone or anything without condition. I have for all of my life fought to not be taken advantage of, used, manipulated, coerced, made the fool, and yet.....I have made myself a slave to those very issues.

As I have aged...yes, there I have said the truth as it is, I have had to accept certain limitations of necessity. And most have not broken, bruised or bothered me. I have never been particularly vain in the area of persona but I have to accept that I am vain of spirit. I am not as old in my head as I am the rest of my body. But my body can no longer support the craziness I create in my head. So therefore, (I feel like this is one of those geometry equations) I must accept where I am and who I am and what I can do. And it is all about me. Full on, straight in the face, just you Linda.

So now we move on to the acceptance of situation. I must find a way to balance what has happened and let it go. I must make plans, set goals and accept that they need to be a little more realistically short term. I must take each moment and use it to the betterment of those around me secondarily to my own needs. And that really seems backasswards. Don't have all the time in the world to do it someday anymore. If I'm gonna do for me and find bliss, it better be now. So with that thought in mind I must speak the truth at all times, even if it is not what is most comfortable. I must be kind to those around me and not deceive them with niceties instead of truth.

We had a family "come to Jesus" meeting and have vowed that each of us will be in the moment honest. And I'm here to tell you it is not always easy. Not colored by the past mistakes, misunderstanding or misdeeds but spotlighted in loving truthfulness. We have already run into some uncomfortable situations but because we are trying to do it together instead of just one of us making an effort, we're doing pretty good. It is not all roses and unicorns by any stretch of the imagination but I need this. They deserve this.

I have accepted that time is ticking and I want not to waste one more moment hurt, upset or resentful. I want to send out into the universe the love I feel for others but haven't always felt in return and lovelies that is not possible unless it is refined to pure love. I needed to say this to myself and to the world. I want a clear path to follow, not one littered with mish mash of junk I've held onto in order to justify where and why I fall off of the path.

I've accepted that I must accept.....it is what it is....by my actions in the moment only. The truth may set you free....but not unless you accept it with your whole being. So here I go.....wish me luck, light a candle or just smile that I finally got it......anyone of those will be appreciated.


  1. It is what it is---Like you I've never liked this phrase. Samhain...acceptance is much better. Happy New Year.

  2. I wish you luck Oma Linda ;o) I will light a candle for you ;o) Mom sends out big hugs to you, for lighting a new candle for her and I ;o) We love you and we know you will do well! 2013 is going to be a big year in so many ways! If I accomplish ahead of me, what I want to do, I will have a party and fly you over to Canada ;o) LOL! Here's to a great 2013 ;o)

  3. Good luck! That 'it is what it is' seems to be an American thing thankfully. We go for the more pragmatic 'Sh*t happens' ;o)

  4. I wish the phrase would run its course and go away. When I hear it in my mind I'm thinking, "but it could be better." Lately I've been feeling old and that just ain't me. I am always telling people that you're only as old as you think you are but there are factors at play now that make those words seem hollow. Maybe it is what it is.
    Happy New Year my dear sista. S&S

  5. Along with your acceptance, I hope comes compassion, Linda. You do so much spiritually that sometimes acceptance can bite one in the behind if not metered with compassion. I hope you accept what a wonderful person you are and that you deserve great happiness.

  6. Hello, Linda. As I read and reread your post to try and get an idea of what it was you were conveying I think I fell upon some similarities to what I've been going through with my self and son dealing with so very much this past decade. I go through cycles of "it is what it is" and the acceptance of things that are not in my control at all. That's so tough to do. My work is in learning how I handle all the things that come my/our way as an individual and as part of a family. It can be so difficult. I've been dealing with bouts of depression and working as hard as I can to be up for others. It's a double edged sword, as they say. I do hope you will find the success you are looking for in your acceptance and as one of your other readers said in her comment, temper it with compassion for yourself. You have been such a wonderful ray of honesty and sunshine in my life since I started my blogs and I am so happy that we have become connected through them. I wish I could say something amazing and "deep" and revealing, but I have to admit that I'm stumbling through all this too in my own way. Sometimes I think that is what gives us our humanity.

    Sending you love and blessings and lighting a candle for you and definitely smiling as I think of you,

  7. Thank you for your kind comments on my blog post Christmas Karma (which Hilary chose as one of the POTW).

    I too have been struggling with Acceptance and was also thinking of that word for 2013. My dear husband passed away 2 1/2 years ago and Acceptance is a very bitter pill to try and swallow. However - there is nothing I can do to change "what is." And gradually I am learning to either wallow in misery or pick myself up and try to make a life.

    Good luck in your Acceptance of whatever situation in your life needs it. I too will light a candle for you (and for all my pagan friends - oh and just everybody!)

  8. Once again, our little words go hand in hand this year. We've got similar goals as well. That will make for some fabulous moral support! Happy New year, Oma. xox

  9. ~a powerful word chosen and too goes hand in hand with the words i chose to guide me...accept...tough one but think of where your soul will reside if it accepts the moments and moves forward...sifting and sorting...holding on...can be ever so tiring...i accept you who you are and i wish for this little word to offer only its greatest of powers throughout your days ahead...much love light and blessings be with you and yours~

  10. I think that to varying degrees, this resonates with many of us.. if not most of us. Acceptance is important. I understand your dislike of the phrase "it is what it is." MY cousin practically writhes when someone says it. She reads it as dismissive and unfeeling. I see it more as an acceptance of reality. Neither are easy. I do indeed wish you luck and smile. And when night falls, I will light that candle. Hugs to you, Linda.

  11. Not sure if you know much about yoga, but there are yama's and niyama's. Acceptance is a biggy and I applaud you for looking this one in the eye. My focus is almost always non-attachment. Not to be confused with detachment.

    Mazel on your choice!


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