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Monday, February 8, 2010

Old broad, new trick

When I was involved in the church as lay person and then as a professional, I heard people complain about their lives in one way or another and heard the platitudes that were given out like wafers at communion. "God never gives you more than you can handle", "God helps those who helps themselves", "you need to walk a mile in his shoes to understand". All true Benjamin Franklin fodder. Like "never look a gift horse in the mouth"......ya get it.

And sometimes when I am faced with a situation where I need to find comforting words for someone else who is going through some hellacious something, I have paused and pondered for fear that I am not just giving lip service to a real hurt in someone else's life or not playing uh huh me too.

But I now see that my judgement was wrong. Even if I found the words to be hollow at the time......I still remember them. Who am I to judge how someone else is comforted or comforting? At least they are trying. This is like one of those could have had a V-8 moments. Whatever transpires between the comforter and the comfortee is between them. Intentions are what they are. Now the reason for this whirling dervish thought process is because I have been comforted as of late. And never once did I question the intentionality behind any kind or consoling remark. That may sound like, "okay and your point is what Linda"?

If I have learned and experienced comforting, can forgiveness be far behind? I would never have accepted comfort without looking into the why until there was you...... And now, I have a sense that I can look on the other side of people and situations in my life and well.....try on some forgiveness and see if it fits. 

In other words, pull up my big girl panties and move on.

Once again thanks lovelies.....ya did it ......who says and old broad can't learn a new trick or three.


  1. What a beautiful post. Forgiveness is easier said than done, but it is doable. Takes time and patience. I've forgiven some, but others I am still working on.

  2. Great post and there's nothing more absolving is to absolve. However, not everyone deserves this; take my ex-husband, please...papop-repop-bang!!! LOL That creep will always be a creep, no matter what and besides, as far as he's concerned, this was all my fault..."yea, I picked out the scank that you slept with while we were married"...oooo, wow, thought I got rid of all that poison in therapy!!!! Oh well, I call it residual yucky feelings!!!

    Anyway, girl, you hang in there and I can assure you all this won't matter a year from now...that's usually the way I look at crap in my life.

    Take care, God bless and love ya mucho, B&G,


  3. Just a hug and a pat on the back.

  4. ~to forgive and move onward...challenging for all i think all..whether they will admit it or not...i was told once...if you forgive, you forgive and move on...you do not save those feeling to be unleashed in the future...i was good at that...i thought i had forgiven but things would arise again...it is a tough one but all we can do is continue to try...lovely words...brightest blessings~


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