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Sunday, November 24, 2013

How do you mend a broken heart?

I know that there is not one single person that has not at one time or another dealt with a broken heart.

Sometimes it is a lost love, denied love, never ever even knew they were the object of your affection love, stayed way too long and it got ugly kinda love, thought it was love but I realize now it was lust, the person you loved really disappointed you kinda love,........the list is endless,isn't it?

And I am interested in what you have to say on the subject.

I will say the reason I ask this is because I was on a facebook page about my hometown way back when, and I saw an old loves name there. I was tempted to look to see what he had to say but thought better of it because even seeing his name brought back a hurt. And that started my old brain a whirling.

So my friends, how did you deal with a broken heart? After I get a couple of days of comments, I will share how I attempted to cure the pain. Thanks for sharing...............xoxo Oma Linda

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  1. depends. plus it's been so long since I had to endure that that I don't really remember. but mostly, you don't do anything. you just keep waking up and going on with your life and eventually it all fades and you get interested in someone else. however. I had a group of friends about 12 years ago, the kind where we call ourselves family and friends forever and one day they all turned their backs on me and shunned me and I never really understood why. so the first thing I did was get rid of every thing in my house that had any connection to them...photos, gifts, mementos...either by throwing them away, giving them to others, or returning them. The second thing I did was send, anonymously (because I thought they would reject it), gifts that I owed to three of them (and this was not for their benefit but for mine). the third thing was that, once I thought I had finally figured out the why, I got angry because they were judging me and not a single one of them was in a position to judge anyone and I knew that. but really, the only thing that eased the pain was time. 10 years later, the woman who I had thought of as my best friend at the time sent me a friend request on FB and she was all la de da how are you and wasn't that such a great time we all had back then. she didn't care for my response and blocked me.

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    1. Gods Ellen, that is a horrible kind of heart break. Betrayal like that sucks. I won't say I know how you felt but I will say I have had a similar situation and if I think about it very much can get vaklempt about it. Wounds heal but, bad weather can make um hurt again. Thank you for this share.

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  2. How do I cure a broken heart? I listen to music like this, it helps me to know that this too shall pass. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAUq0p1B6Ic

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    1. Oh Jan, you are so right. Music does help......

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  3. How to mend a broken heart? Time and a life full of other things so that you don't think too much...Sadly, this type of situation usually leaves a soft spot which may be opened when the lost love enters again...hopefully the things filling a life will override that soft spot and allow only nice feelings and not longing...

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    1. I agree with you. When this is happening to a young person....well it seems like it is ones whole life, experience has not yet been a teacher of patience.

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  4. I don't think a broken heart can ever really be mended, because a hole always seems to remain. Time and appreciation for what you now have helps to patch a broken heart. Realize that was a road not taken so you can never know where that path would have led. Trust in yourself and your instinct that you chose wisely and found what was best for yourself. Don't dwell on regrets because they are negative, reflect on all the good and positive you have and appreciate the blessings with which you have been gifted.

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    1. Good advice Karen. and I agree that it is always there, just as time wears away at the brokenness, I think the edges wear down. Thanks for your input.

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  5. They say that time heals all wounds but I think it's more about what you do with that time. If we mope and drag out the connection, we drag out the pain.

    Sometimes, like you said it's the dealing with the disappointment of an ongoing relationship. Those are tricky. Talk when you're past the anger and try to come to an understanding. If you can, let them know how they hurt you. Hopefully it can be mended.

    Getting through the broken heart works best for me if I keep busy.. projects, reading and long, contemplative walks. And like Ellen said, I rid myself of reminders.

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    1. yep if you just sit around the pain seems to multiply, keeping busy always helps, thank Hilary

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  6. Years ago I was the one who broke someone's heart. I was young and stupid and wasn't ready for a serious relationship and I ended it terribly. I've always regretted it.

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    1. I'm with you on this one Stephen. I too very matter of factly hurt someone and it wasn't until I had suffered the same fate did I even recognize what I had been guilty of doing.

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  7. I cried....and talked about it to anyone who would listen. One time I was so angry that I had someone drive me to the guys house and I threw a rock at him. Missed him, of course. But usually time would take the heartache away.

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    1. A rock huh? Mary, well at least you missed him. I wrote on a guys windshield one time when he was out cheating on me. Poor kid had a heck of a time getting the ugliness of my writing off his windshield.

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    2. Threw a rock!...teehee...funny stuff

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  8. There were days that I thought I would never get over the hurt and there are still days that still hurt a little. Time was I thought I would never get over it but I did and now am stronger for it. Some people can be bitter and some can be vindictive but I chose to just move on (took me a while) and I learned from the experience. Time really does heal all wounds though there will always be scars, one just have to get over it and move on.

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  9. Hey Oma Linda ;o) Sorry I am late, again! LOL! This subject is very hard for me! I don't even know how to write what I feel? I have been hurt so many ways in relationships. And, sometimes, myself, I act like a puppy dog, still coming back, wagging my tail, because I think in someway I deserve it? My last relationship with a guy was in 1999! Yes, that many years ago! I said to myself, if a guy isn't going to love me for truly me, then I would rather be single! And, that I have been! Just this past summer, I thought I had met a special person! Nothing happened between us, but I thought maybe? And, now, nope, no more! I am like, what the fuck?? LOL! But, I was thankful for the short time he came into my life! He sparked something in me, that was missing for a long time. And, I guess that's why he came to me. I needed him for that. I said a blessing, set him free, and said I will always be thankful for him ;o) Now, how do I deal with a broken heart? I cry, I write, I meditate, I go outside, I dust. This happens for about a week and then I try to get on with life ;o) Better for the past to be the past and put it to sleep! Learn from it and go on! I wouldn't look up an old loves name, that brought up hurt within you. Nope!!! I would press delete! LOL! Big Hugs ;o)

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