An note on broken hearts

I wish to thank all of you for sharing your thoughts about mending a broken heart.

Like so many who said, time will heal, I agree. And like some, I too have been the doer of the breaking. And I am sure you are curious as to the why of the question.

As I told you I was looking on a facebook page about Remember When in Albuquerque when I saw a comment by someone who broke my heart as a young person. It was quite a jolt to see that name and read those words. It's been almost 45 years and I still had a pang.

This young man asked me to a dance. Funny thing was it was girl's ask boy dance, you remember Sadie Hawkins dances? I know he asked me because he knew I wanted to go but was afraid to ask him. We walked to school, attended the dance and had a good time. I, in my naïve and young heart expected that we would be better friends after the dance, but he wouldn't talk to me afterwards. I asked him why and he said he had met someone "better" at the dance and didn't want to be friends. I never spoke to him again. I was crushed by a crush.

I avoided him like I had done something wrong. For me it was so painful to see him. He only lived a few houses away and we walked home from school everyday. I took it upon myself to walk way out of the way and found a different route home so that I wouldn't have to "bump" into him. Of course now I know how silly that was and how I should have let it just be, but at the time (14) I was too green to know how to play the "I don't really give a big one game". Youth, in matters of the heart is not wasted on the young, it is inflicted.

Most folks have experienced being brokenhearted in relationship love, some crushed, some bruised, some scarred, some hold it in forever. Sometimes the pain of it is what makes or breaks them, hardens them, makes them turn away from trusting. And then for the majority, it makes them appreciate when all the pieces fall together and you get a goodie and it lasts.

SM and I celebrated the start to our 43rd year together as a couple. And yes we have battled our way to this point. It was worth every scrimmage and tussle we have ever had. But I kissed many a frog before my frog prince swept me off of my lily pad. He says he never loved anyone before me but the man lies. He's a keeper but he does tell a tale.

Another reason for the question is GK's age. She has had a couple of crushes and had a few paramours hopes be dashed. At present she has a serious crush on a young man who is more than a little "emo" and I thought it might be a good idea to get some other saged advice from all of you before the inevitable happens. It might mean nothing to her, then again, it might mean a lot, time will tell, yes? And any other adult is much smarter than the ones she is living with anyway. tee hee.

Happy Thanksgiving. When I count my blessings, please know I count every single one of you and some of you twice.

Smooches and Squoozes, Oma Linda

How do you mend a broken heart?

I know that there is not one single person that has not at one time or another dealt with a broken heart.

Sometimes it is a lost love, denied love, never ever even knew they were the object of your affection love, stayed way too long and it got ugly kinda love, thought it was love but I realize now it was lust, the person you loved really disappointed you kinda love,........the list is endless,isn't it?

And I am interested in what you have to say on the subject.

I will say the reason I ask this is because I was on a facebook page about my hometown way back when, and I saw an old loves name there. I was tempted to look to see what he had to say but thought better of it because even seeing his name brought back a hurt. And that started my old brain a whirling.

So my friends, how did you deal with a broken heart? After I get a couple of days of comments, I will share how I attempted to cure the pain. Thanks for sharing...............xoxo Oma Linda

Yes, I am back at home here at Ye Olde Crones Gazette..............

The diversion from posting here has been long enough that I feel like I can honestly come back with fresh thoughts.

I want to ask you and the universe questions. I want to share thoughts, fears, hopes and truths here. I hope you won't mind. I hope you will participate. I hope you will give me insight into how you feel, or think, or what you would do in some situations.

I am here. I hope you will be too.

This is something I have been pondering.

Do you think it is possible for someone to be born with resentment in their emotional makeup? Or is it a feeling that comes from surroundings not genes, you know that old nature vs. nurture cache? Is it possible for someone to get rid of resentment and replace it with a positive feeling? Is resentment just jealousy or envy?

I am truly looking for insights and hope that you will share your thoughts.

This Olde Crone, Oma